Last week was an emotional week with a best friend having a baby. She’s a doll and mother and baby are fine! Yesterday was my birthday and it always brings me moments of reflection. My life presently is mostly pretty peaceful and good, but there are a couple of things I wish were different. Not unlike most people I suppose. But last week I heard two things that really set my heart low.
They both had to do with couples. Both couples were at pivotal moments in their ‘couple life’ and yet the men cheated. Now I’m no saint, and I’m not here to judge. That’s not what this blog piece is about. Hearing the news about these two women and how heartbroken they both were, made me think about how often we hear about couples going through this sort of awful thing. And it made me wonder.
If they aren’t going through actual affairs, then I seem to hear people complaining about their relationships. How miserable they are and wish they were single. Or how they are just staying for the kids, or because they don’t want to be alone, or because they are just used to someone, or because they are afraid to date again. They don’t seem to be staying because they are actually happy and love the person they have married or is their partner. I’m not saying this is everyone, but with a divorce rate as high as it is, then I say something seems wrong.
For me personally, I’ve been divorced three times. And I’ve been on a million dates it seems. Nothing seems right. I’ve blamed myself, I’ve blamed the men, I’ve blamed the area in which I live. And many of my friends now, men and women, are choosing to remain single. So now I’m starting to formulate a new ‘crazy theory’.
It seems to me the human race in on crash course. On that I think most of us agree. We are polluting the air, the ocean, the earth, our bodies. We are also killing each other: nations are fighting one another and can’t ever seem to come to peaceful resolve about much. Humans murder one another for no good reason, rape, blow up innocent gatherings with the intent to kill. Oh sometimes it’s suppose to be in the name of something, but it’s never seems a good reason to murder. What about all the species we are helping towards extinction or are already there? The list is endless of the harm we are causing–to each other, our planet and all the plants and animals that inhabit it with us.
So what’s my theory? Here we all are, men and women…humans, the dominate species and so many of us can’t seem to get along. I’m beginning to wonder if this isn’t part of the plan? If maybe this destructive species of ours is actually running ourselves right into extinction too, not only by obvious reasons stated above, but by the simple fact that men and women just can’t seem to function as a unit any longer.
Obviously this unit is necessary, at least to some degree, for the procreation of the species. Sure, there are other ways that this can happen by artificial insemination, cloning or maybe even cryogenics. But the old-fashioned way of the man/woman relationship seems to almost be a thing of the past. At least in my small scope of vision.
Certainly over population still exists in many nations. But infant mortality probably equals it in many nations also. It depends on the wealth of the nation. I’m talking on a more emotional level here. As men and women’s rift becomes wider, how will this effect the species in the long run? I mean very long run obviously. Our overuse, abuse, misuse, carelessness and callousness has made global changes on almost every aspect of our ecosystem from the most expansive down to the tiniest cell. We know that now. So can we say that this shift from our grand parent’s time and their 60 year marriages, to our families now with 2 and 3 divorces will not also have a deeper implication than we think far into the future?
Once again, this is only one crazy old crone’s opinion. Thoughts floating around as I hear stories from saddened hearts and knowing my own heart and what I too have done and felt. I cried with joy when the supreme court struck down DOMA and feel that everyone has the right to marry the one they love. And any person or persons can raise a child, although not everyone does it well. But it will always (as far as we know now, for the most part) take one egg and one sperm to create that child. So if this rift between man and woman becomes so great at some point so far down the road that fertilization doesn’t take place, well then, I guess the earth will slowly be rid of us. That is, if we don’t blow it up first.