Seeing people for who they really are, whether they are homeless or our closest friends/family, can often be challenging. As humans, we spend a lot of time trying to create comfort around us, and this may include internal comfort also. Living in a world where situations can bring us discomfort, our brain will do as much as it can to remove the ‘bad’ stuff; erase memories or twist pictures before our eyes into something we’d prefer to see.

Seeing the world around us without our rose-colored glasses can often be painful, on a personal and global level. It may reveal our own child as a drug addict or a fellow human as hungry, neither snapshot as something we want to see.

But both these things are truths before us and must be acknowledged. They are drastic cases of what we see when we choose to have our eyes truly open to people around us. How do these things make us feel about these people and how do we react in response? Afterall, it does not change the fact that they are both humans still…

What if what our eyes remain closed to simpler truths about someone else? Things that just make them who they are, but different from you and I? Have we truly listened and accepted what someone has told us about their feelings or needs? Or are we trying to change them to fit into our agenda?

It can be a challenge to accept someone just as they are; especially when they look or act differently. Each day the world seems to become less and less accepting and we drift farther apart from our shared humanity.

Respect and listening. If we felt heard and respected, no matter how minor the role we may play in this game called life, then we can feel here, human and a part of the whole.







12 thoughts on “Clarity

  1. I struggle with this. Honestly I have only become aware that I do this in the last few years. Now trying to break that habit is a struggle but one I wish I had began years ago. Listen to listen not listening to respond and realizing that everyone is not like me. 57 years old, I’m a little late to the party. But I can’t beat myself up over that, too. Geez! Just live and learn, right?

  2. How true! But isn’t it difficult at times to accept these stark realities ? Accepting people for what they are – this one single quality can prevent so many quarrels, fights and wars!

  3. Yes, it can be difficult for sure, especially when we finally learn about something about someone who is near and dear to us. But if we try as hard as we can to live without judgement, then we can do this! We must be patient with ourselves in learning.

  4. But the point here Dawn it that you are struggling with it! That’s more than most. And that you are trying…like me. I, too, am basically a talker and have found it hard to really be quiet and listen. Although I would like to believe I am accepting of all people at first, until you prove otherwise. We are all works in progress. I’m learning so much about myself these last years, and what makes me tick. Why, maybe I haven’t listened as well as I should. Was my voice not heard over the years growing up (and maybe not now still?). Did I feel disenpowered by those around me who didn’t accept me for who I was (and maybe still don’t)? I’m still struggling with authenticity in folks. Who is real? My two ‘besties’ are the ones that truly accept me just the way I am, warts and all. xoxo

  5. beautifully written– i strive to do this – but i listen to my radar much better than i used to — so i needa protect my self too !

  6. Of course, we almost must protect ourselves, but we can do that by listening I think. And accepting ourselves. Those that truly accept us are the ones we need no protecting from….

  7. They say that folks that have had certain types of childhoods or difficulties are more sensitive to this kind of stuff early on: abuse, adoptees etc. This may be why I can sense it or am looking for it in others? It bugs me I guess. I’m on the look out for people who aren’t genuine….

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