Poem Art: Elusive


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I had a conversation today with a person who played a prominent role in my past. He said something that triggered a visceral, and for me, odd reaction. It was odd, because it surprised me, that I could feel such a ‘gut’ feeling (like I had been punched in the gut) to a very simple thing this person said in a perfectly normal conversation. It wasn’t like we had delved into the past or were reminiscing… and yet, the comment, in a sense, was about the past, because it referenced a place we had shared together.

This moment touched off many thoughts in me. Like what constitutes relationships and ‘falling in love’ with someone? And is love even the right way to approach a relationship? Should it be more about wanting or needing something–for yourself; in others?

Certainly at my age, love seems a far cry from where I am these days. My relationships with people close to me seem to be based on things much more involved than love. Things that seem even more important and lasting than love if that makes any sense. The things that keep people together–the glue.

Those of you that have lasting relationships of any kind know what I mean here, so I won’t explain what I am talking about. Love can be fleeting and fickle and hard to get a grasp on. But we can still build strong, solid and meaningful bonds even after the love may turn into something strange or convoluted. Or maybe if the ‘love’ was strange from the start.

So can I re-evaluate life and how to live it more openly? To be open to a different way to to be with someone if love isn’t the defining point? It’s another perspective really, but not unfamiliar. It’s a theme that has repeated in my life.

What is the ‘want’ then…or the ‘need’? These become the hard questions to ask. Because simply hoping to exchange love with someone, I feel, is not where I should place my hope.

It seems it should be in far more reliable, tangible and maybe simple things that will help to grow a connection with someone else; things that will ultimately not vanish, just in case the love remains elusive.

 

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4 thoughts on “Poem Art: Elusive

  1. Love is a strange and fickle thing. I believe we fall in and out of love many times over the course of a relationship. Or at least that’s how I have felt. Sometimes I have had to talk myself into being in love because the feeling isn’t there. So I think learning to be with someone in a place other than “in love” is a great way to look at a relationship. Does this make any sense??????

    1. Does it make sense to you? That’s the important thing. I was trying to make sense of what I was feeling, that’s why I wrote this one. It’s a strange topic really…

    1. I was talking to a friend and we both agreed that if you asked 100 people to define love, you’d get 100 definition. For me it’s been an elusive thing Ann. I’ve decided maybe I am just looking at the wrong thing…

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