Sometimes we are too close to something to have a good perspective. Being on top of a situation, job, marriage or similar part of our life, can distort how we judge our role within it. Stepping back can be impossible because we are actively living the part.
This is when it becomes so valuable to have someone in our lives to help us gain perspective. Someone who can help us take 10 giant steps backwards and really look at what we are feeling but may be having a hard time either defining or acting upon.
This go-to person or people we hopefully all have are the ones that usually can swiftly and succinctly point out all the things we may not be able to see or don’t want to face. That divorce you sense deep down has been looming, the job you know you really hate or the goodbye you need to say to someone who is no longer a friend.
We easily make excuses why none of these things make sense to do: the kids, the money or hurt feelings. But your true friend will remind you that we live only once and happiness should be our ultimate goal.
They help you see through the clouds and dark times and help give you hope. And when you finally realize they are right, they help you with the next phase of your life.
I’ve had many phases and been fortunate enough to be blessed with more go-to people than most. I’m not sure what I would have done without them in many cases. They are my voice of reason, the light in the storm and wind in my sails.
I only pray that I am the same for them.