Goodbye Old Friend


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He woke me up too early as per usual with his beagle barking. I gave him a special marrow bone today and we went on his favorite walk, even though it’s become harder these days. He had a stumble, but muddled through just the same. I fed him his lunch, took him for a stroll around the yard, talked to him and got him in the car. He had a hard time jumping in, not like the old days. But he still scooted in the front seat to be with me, and whined as usual and pestered me to pat him. And gave me this uncanny smile.

The incontinence has been worse, so I brought a sample as per the vet’s instructions. She’s not only my vet, but an old friend. I’ve made this drive before, to her office and even to her house. But never before has it been so hard because the signs were so nebulous.

My old dog as been failing, but slowly. And my life is changing, rapidly and largely. When do we decide that they can’t change with us? How much do they need to fail before we decide they can’t transition with us? These are the questions that I, along with my vet and some dear friends, have been battling with for weeks.

But today, we decided to take a sample and see what this latest issue was about to see if it might be the final blow. I prepared myself for the inevitable. While everything I read said the signs were all about quality of life, pain etc.–my guy really didn’t exhibit obvious things like my past pets that would make me say: YES it’s time. They were more subtle, so the decision has weighed heavy on me. Plus this dog hasn’t been my best, best friend. We’ve tolerated each other, but he came with his issues and we never bonded as much as I would have liked. So I’ve felt a profound guilt over deciding to do ‘the deed’.

The vet dipped the urine and it showed heavy proteins–no blood, no sugar. That meant bad sign for his kidneys. She helped me realize that while at this present moment he may not be outwardly suffering, the incontinence and constant drinking, means that he is on his way to kidney issues. That, combined with his myriad other issues (anxiety, skin issues, failing hearing and sight, a huge fatty tumor around his penis) and the fact that I will soon be changing his entire world–it made it a no-brainer.

So, my old, crazy friend went out like a beagle howling the whole time. And the vet and I cried like babies. And then for the first time in his silly beagle life, he was quiet and still. She felt around his obvious tumor and then felt something big near his kidney–maybe another lurking tumor. Cancer? Who knows? I will never know now, but maybe that is what was growing and making him sicker.

The older I get, the more I can’t take these things. While I love my pets, the losing them becomes harder. He will meet many of my old buddies now: Ernie, Orville, Duke, Golden Boy and lots of kitties in the Summerland! Now he can run and bark and howl till his heart’s content. And no more Mama telling him: Be quiet Brinkley!

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22 thoughts on “Goodbye Old Friend

  1. I’m glad that the decision is finally made – so at least that tumultuous thought doesn’t have to keep tumbling around inside of you.

    And it is good that you did get more of a sign with the kidneys than you had before.

    Hope you are doing well tonight.

  2. Oh, I am so sorry! Pets leave such a big hole in our lives when they’re gone. And the decision is heartbreaking, even when you know it is the right one. You made sure he didn’t suffer, and that takes strength and courage….

    1. Thanks so much Ann. It was a tough one this time because it was so nebulous. If I wasn’t moving we would have hung on longer, so I felt so guilty. But, in the end, I know it was OK. I did what I hoped was right. ❤

  3. hugs
    you did the right thing at the right time
    hugs
    i have had to end the suffering for way too many of my animal family. it is not easy and though done many times, it is still not easy.
    i see it this way. i am not ending a life, but ending the suffering.
    i can only hope that when it comes my time, someone will see it that way too.

    1. You are so right my friend! We are so much more fair with our animal friends than we are to humans. I don’t get it. Too many political walls. I was right there with him, holding him and sending him on. Very sad, but you are right, hopefully so he didn’t have to suffer later on. ❤

    1. Thanks so much for caring. No it never is…funny there was a plant knocked over today. Just like he always did. We wondered
      if his spirit came back just to mess with us!

  4. I’m only at the start of a long journey with our puppy, you’ve lived through a day that I won’t have to live through for many years. They touch our hearts in ways other people will never understand, apart from other dog owners.

  5. My dog, ‘Monty’, had same health issues; kidney, eyesight, arthritis. I had to do the same… I still miss him. He lived thirteen and half years with us.

    1. Very hard choice when it’s just a lot of little things adding up not one catastrophic thing. But in the end we save them from suffering. Thanks for your support.

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